Re-Discover Your Natural Energy And Enthusiasm




Ever felt a complete lack of energy, that goes beyond any physical ailments you might have, or has nothing to do with your workload? That feeling of deep-seated inability to move forward despite a list of to-dos, that is a mile long, AND despite knowing all of the reasons why you want to do them?

Sometimes, motivation, inspiration, and reasons behind your goals are not enough. Sometimes, moving on, from those who have hurt you, does not free you. You have done everything you are supposed to do, yet, you seem to fall right back into the pattern, of an inability to move forward, to take action, to forcefully move on.

Have you checked your self-talk?

Our negative self-talk can be more draining than any physical ailment we can have. Negative self-talk might even go unnoticed for a while, a silent voice, that is so often with you, that you are not aware of it all of the time, but it is there, working on your soul, allowing you to not move forward because it drains you.

How to become aware of your self-talk.

Take a couple of days, noting your self-talk, by focusing upon your thoughts. Notice that I did not write correct, or criticize your self-talk. I want you to only become aware of your self-talk. If you recognize any patterns, like specific situations, time of day, or people who trigger this negative self-talk, then note that too.


Re-Discover Your Natural Energy And Enthusiasm

How to change your negative self-talk.

This is a multiple step process, that takes patience on your part, but it will be worth the work.

Step One:

Once you have done the above exercise, begin to thank your thoughts. These negative self-talks are here for a reason. They have protected you, made you aware of situations, and gave you anger – which at times, can be a motivator for  action. So, instead of forcing a change, acknowledge their presence, thank them, and move on.

Step two

After a few days of acknowledgments and thanking them, insert affirmations. Again, do not force change, but rather, insert a mantra of your choice, that you repeat three times. I suggest the following affirmation, but you can write one that particularly fits your negative self-talk. Smile when repeating this affirmation. I am safe in my here and now. I am positive and powerful.

Step three

Practice step two for 7 days, then move on to step three. By this time, you will already have  noticed that there will be less occurrences of negative self-talk in many instances. But for those times, when you still catch negative self-talk, assume a more powerful pose (see my post on power posing for more details), by straightening your spine, squaring your shoulders, and smiling, while repeating the mantra. Hold this post the entire time you repeat the affirmation, and assume it often throughout the day, holding it for at least one minute.

Re-Discover Your Natural Energy And Enthusiasm
Remember that creating new action take on average 21 days before becoming an automatic habit. Be patient with yourself and do not push. Forcing yourself to stop negative self-talk will not create lasting change. And, after all, that is what in the end we are all after – a lasting change, that increases the enjoyment of our entire life and not just a  temporary fix.



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14 thoughts on “Re-Discover Your Natural Energy And Enthusiasm

  1. Dear Claudia,

    Thank you so much for this positive post. As a college student, I face a lot of a self-doubt and negativity, especially with the high amounts of stress I experience with school work and jobs. Mental health is so important, and I want to make myself stronger. Thank you for these tips. Lots of love~*

    1. going through college is absolutely a high-stress situation. I am glad you are taking care of yourself, and your education. I wish you all the best. Blessings!

  2. I do find myself drained of energy and unmotivated more often than not. You seriously hit the nail on the head on how I feel most days.

    It has nothing to do with sleep or my workload. I am going to try to start with your first step of taking notice of my self-talk.

    Would you mind giving me me a couple examples of negative self-talk thoughts just so that I can better understand how to recognize them? Thank you!

    1. yes, of course.
      For example, calling yourself stupid, when you made small mistakes. Or standing in front of the mirror, frowning at your reflection, because you don’t like what you see. I have been guilty of both of these. Criticizing your own actions, as you do them – for example, calling your own handwriting sloppy in your head. Getting overly frustrated with yourself, when you do not learn something as fast as you think you should. When you hear yourself think the same thoughts, that overbearing family members used to tell you – you know which ones, we all have them. These are just examples, and they are all different depending on your situation, background and such. Repeating thoughts of not having enough money is another one, that is very common.

      Hope that helped, Rachel – thank you for stopping by!

  3. Really great article. We really need to be more aware of how we talk to ourselves. The biggest problems however, is the fact that we don’t even KNOW we have negative self talk. Most of the time it’s not obvious how negative we’re being. You can also write these negative thoughts down just to see how negative you may be – Or Tony Robbins has a 30 day challenge where you have to reframe all your negative self talk within one minute or you have to start from day one.

    1. ah, I love Tony Robbins – and I am aware of the technique you are referring to. His challenge is a tough one, but worth the effort. Blessings!

  4. This is some wonderful information that most people need whether they realize it or not. The trick is to show people how it os useful since many are often closed minded.

    I really enjoyed having “self talk” put front and center. Something I have been overlooking myself!

    1. Hi Marc – self-talk is a topic so many people dismiss all too easily. I am glad you found this article useful. Blessings and thanks for stopping by!

  5. Wonderful article and very uplifting too. Negative self-talk can be damaging over time. I agree with you, citing my experiences, as an illustration, I must practice for at least 21 days for my thoughts or actions to become the norm. I will keep visiting for updates.

    1. Hi Josephine, glad you found the article useful. You are so correct, so many people stop though before these 21 days, and then undo all of the good they have accomplished already. Blessings!

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