Some of you may have noticed that I have been a little AWOL over the last few days. We have been moving our large family and our business over the weekend, which is always quite an adventure.
Yet, mindfulness does not have to be a practice that is only taken seriously when it is easy. Moving, and staying mindful is possible, even if your patience and resolve may be tested. It sure had been for us, as we had to wait for the entire weekend for our gas to be turned on, which meant no hot water for showers, no heater, no cooking and no hot water for dishes.
We could have made ourselves miserable by taking this as a negative, and complain about this occurrence, which after all we could not change, and was not the fault of anyone – it was a last minute move after all, and there are only so many open appointment times available for service calls.
Instead, we utilized the resources at hand and were grateful for what we had. Thanks to our move we are minutes away from awesome restaurants, and Trader Joe’s which has great prepared salads, and wraps, even for Vegans, like my daughter. We stayed grateful, met some of the nice people living close by, and took our time to put everything in its perfect space.
A few years ago, my mind would have wondered to the “wouldn’t it be nice”, or “I wish people just would…”. Instead, I enjoyed myself, and we had a calm weekend, even inviting some friends.Mindful Moving – The Art Of Living Positively Click To Tweet
This changing perspective was a choice, to stay focused on the joys of the moment, to be grateful in all situation, and to find the positive. It is not necessary an easy task as first, especially when chronic negative thinking has been in place for years. Just like any other discipline, it takes practice, and will also require your patience.
Keep the following mindful and positive thinking guidelines in mind, when starting a positive living practice:
1. Temporarily falling back into old thinking patterns is not a failure, but simply a stepping stone. The fact that you recognized your negative thinking pattern is a good thing and shows that you are making a shift in your thinking. Acknowledge your thoughts, and let them go.
2. Don’t force yourself to feel happy. Forcing an emotion you are not ready for only puts pressure on yourself, and can actually lead to depressive thoughts. I rather suggest that you acknowledge your feelings at the present moment, and then become present in your activities instead. It gives you a chance to let go of your past failures, and future worries, without forcing yourself to a “happy state”.
3. Acknowledge other people’s current state as valid. While you don’t have to outwardly say that you are agreeing with them, or conform to someone else’s reality, you can still kindly remind yourself that their present state is nothing something you can forcefully change. Being a grateful, kind and present person, without the force of words, or debates can actually be more influential than explaining why they should begin thinking in a different way, even if this practice works well for you.
4. Remember that anger has its place in your life too. Unless you are chronically angry – which is a state that should be examined by a mental health practitioner – you should not dismiss but rather examine your feelings of anger, and see if it can be an indicator for a much-needed change. If you look at your feelings as guides, rather than as something that you should guide, you can become a more effective person in all areas of your life. The important point here is to examine your emotions, rather than instantly reacting to them. Ask yourself why you are feeling a certain way, and what that tells you about the situation you are in.
Mindful and positive living is an art form that requires commitment, but with the various positive health and mental benefits that result from such a commitment, it is worth the effort.