How To Be More Patient With Yourself And Others

How To Be More Patient With Yourself And Others

If you have kids, work with others, or are in a relationship of any kind, you surely have plenty of times throughout your day, when you need to practice patience. While this is easier in some situations than others, other times, we all fail at this. When results are at stake, or appointments to keep, patience is not always easy to come by. Here are a few things to remember when facing this:

Evaluate The Cause Of Your Impatience

What caused you to be impatient? Is it people or situations? Some of us are patient with people, whereas, others are more patient during certain circumstances. If people cause you to lose your patience, learn to acknowledge and accept that everyone is different. Focus on the intent of the person, rather on their actions, which is especially important in relationships and with parenting, as this might allow you to see the situation less emotional, and clearer.

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In a business situation, try to rephrase the intent of the person in front of you, and see if that clarifies the communication between the parties involved. Also, make sure that you made your own needs heard, with clear and direct wording, and repeat it if necessary.

Practice Relaxation And Breathing Techniques

This is important! The best way to be patient is to learn to relax when things arise that can cause impatience. When you relax your body, you are less prone to make impulsive decisions. When you relax you can decrease, or even remove, stress and frustration. Take a few deep breaths. Focus on your breathing and clearing your negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones. This is where affirmations come in handy. If possible, take a moment for yourself, in private, to settle yourself, before continuing any interactions

Focus on the Big Picture

Most things that cause a lack of patience are temporary. Being patient helps you to focus on the future or the outcome of things and not just the present. If your kids are trying to help, but are making a bigger mess than expected to do so, remember that the goal is to foster their independence, and learning, which only happens through trial and error.  


Questions: What causes you to be the most impatient? What do you do, to get through that? I would love to hear from you!

 

Blessings!

Claudia

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  1. I have NO patience. Zero. I think part of it is our Boston lifestyle (no one here has patience) and part of it is just the way I’m made. I try, but nothing works….

  2. I always always always need this reminder! I am so guilty of losing my patience so easily with my kids and my husband. I hate the feeling, it is never worth letting those feelings get out of control. Thanks for sharing!

  3. I think I can be a little impatient at times because i try to do too much at the same time and then things that are slow start to bother me. The key is to take one thing at a time and then go to the next and not try to do too much.

  4. I could definitely use some tips on being more patient. I just have too much to do, if I’m at home I’m always trying to rush through things so I can get work done. Out of the house I’m much more easy going. Which is why you should never work from home! Lol

  5. It’s really important to be more patient with people, because not everyone is the same and we have to accept that. I’m a teacher and it’s part of my job to be patient and I just love that I’ve developed it because it helps me think more positive.

  6. These are some great tips on how to be more patient! I have to admit I need to work on being more patient with myself and give myself grace. Focusing on the big picture is essential…I agree. Patience IS a virtue.

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      it is, blessings, Lori – have a great rest of the week

  7. Thanks for some good tips. I need to put these to practice especially on days like today!

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      you’re welcome

  8. I’m trying to meditate more to keep balanced. And mindfulness helps a lot. Life with small children can be so exhausting.

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      they can be indeed, blessings!

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      A lot of people have that same issue. Start with the simplest processes, such as the breathing techniques, and then move on to mediation, and other exercises to increase your patience. Blessings!

  9. Having four kids has definitely made me more patient. It’s really important that we learn how to be more patient though, because it helps us get through life with more positive thoughts. These are great tips.

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      indeed! Blessings!

  10. Patience is my weak point, but something I am trying to work on. My daughter of very impatient, so I need to teach her and lead by example that we need to be patient Easier said than done but we are making it work

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      I am glad that you are trying to be such a great role model to your daughter. Good for you!

  11. I find I can get impatient rather quickly and it so important that I address that by evaluating the cause of my impatience. I like the idea of using breathing techniques too x

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      evaluating the cause is so important! Thanks Ana!

  12. This is my “one” thing that is always a task for me. I have never had much patience, even as a child, teen and young adult. I think once I had children, I really calmed down in this department and am so much better than I was in my youth.

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      I am glad for you. Maybe you should try to add meditation to your daily routine, to take even further. Blessings!

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      you’re very welcome, blessings!

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      good for you, Kelly!

  13. I have been trying to figure out what could be happening with others and give them the benefit of the doubt and also not expect things from them that I wouldn’t expect for myself.

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      that is a very good idea, to approach the subject like that. Blessings!

  14. I personally can benefit from this post. I have given my family and loved ones all my patience that to a point that I barely have any left for myself. I rush and just push through. I totally love this post. Tysm!

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      I hear what you are saying. Try to implement a daily self-care ritual, and make it a part of your routine. Blessings

  15. This is one of the things that my husband and I both have been working on. We are both hot tempered, so it is easy to snap at other people.

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      the great thing is that you are working on it together. Good for you!

  16. I have literally no patience. It’s awful. I see other people and I am just amazed at what they can tolerate.

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      try with something small, to get the momentum going, and revel in every bit of steps that you are taking toward being a more patient person. Good luck on your journey

  17. I need to practice more patience. I know my main cause of impatience is lack of sleep and stress. Just overwhelm in so many items on my plate at one time. Thanks for the tips.

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      you’re very welcome

  18. I’m typically a pretty patient person, with a few exceptions. I tend to get annoyed with people who have no regards for others, like when you are in line and someone is deliberately being slow. Otherwise, the only people I tend to lose my patience with is my family, especially when they ask for help and then don’t follow through with my suggestions and then wonder why nothing changes.

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      yes, that is one of my pet peeves as well. Blessings!

  19. I really need to utilize some of these tips and tricks. I have seemed to have had a short fuse lately with both myself/projects plus other people.

  20. These are great tips! I was born with so much patience the best man in our wedding even said that I was the most patient people he knew!!

  21. These are some great suggestions for ways to be more patient with yourself and others. Love this blog post you shared.

  22. As a WAHM to two toddlers, I lose my patience several times a day. I really love these suggestions and will be practicing them starting today!

  23. Practicing relaxation and breathing can be an important part of being more patient. When you are stressed, your breathing is usually off and erratic.

  24. Patience is so important and as a parent, it’s a quality I definitely want my children to have.

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